What is the major attraction?
Infatuation - your main interest is likely to be the other person's physical equipment, the main stress is on things you can perceive right away -what u can see, hear, smell, or touch about the person
Love - your interest is in his/her total personality. You're attracted to the whole person.
How many factors Attract?
Infatuation - the number of factors that attract you are relatively few. He/she may be very much struck with your lovely hair, pretty legs, bubbly laugh, nice smile, with sense of humor, the way he/walks. Just a few things attract.
Love - many or most of the qualities of the person, and the relationship - attracts you.
How Did it Start?
Infatuation - Tend to start fast. There's no such thing as love at first sight.
Love - starts slowly. Studies have shown that the longer the period of courtship and the engagement, the better the chances for success in a marriage.
How consistent of level of Interest?
Infatuation - a couple's interest in each other comes and goes. Your interest in the other will fluctuate. You are never quite sure one day how you will feel the next.
Love - tends to even out. It becomes more and more consistent. You can depend on your interest in each other staying pretty much the same over a long period of time. You feel comfortable with it, and with each other.
How does it affect your Personality?
Infatuation - that has a disorganizing and destructive effect on your personality. Infatuation make you less effective, less efficient, less your real self. People probably notice it right away.
Love - will have an organizing and a constructive effect on your personality. It brings the best in you; there's an intense and satisfying feeling of greater self-realization and expression; new energy and ambition and more interest in life; you want your beloved to be proud of you, so you try harder; Life has more purpose. You make plans and save for the future. Life takes on new meaning, more sparkle. You make day dream a lot. Love woos you to function at your highest level.
How and when it does end?
Infatuation - it stops the same way it starts - fast!
Love - it stops slowly.
Infatuation - your main interest is likely to be the other person's physical equipment, the main stress is on things you can perceive right away -what u can see, hear, smell, or touch about the person
Love - your interest is in his/her total personality. You're attracted to the whole person.
How many factors Attract?
Infatuation - the number of factors that attract you are relatively few. He/she may be very much struck with your lovely hair, pretty legs, bubbly laugh, nice smile, with sense of humor, the way he/walks. Just a few things attract.
Love - many or most of the qualities of the person, and the relationship - attracts you.
How Did it Start?
Infatuation - Tend to start fast. There's no such thing as love at first sight.
Love - starts slowly. Studies have shown that the longer the period of courtship and the engagement, the better the chances for success in a marriage.
How consistent of level of Interest?
Infatuation - a couple's interest in each other comes and goes. Your interest in the other will fluctuate. You are never quite sure one day how you will feel the next.
Love - tends to even out. It becomes more and more consistent. You can depend on your interest in each other staying pretty much the same over a long period of time. You feel comfortable with it, and with each other.
How does it affect your Personality?
Infatuation - that has a disorganizing and destructive effect on your personality. Infatuation make you less effective, less efficient, less your real self. People probably notice it right away.
Love - will have an organizing and a constructive effect on your personality. It brings the best in you; there's an intense and satisfying feeling of greater self-realization and expression; new energy and ambition and more interest in life; you want your beloved to be proud of you, so you try harder; Life has more purpose. You make plans and save for the future. Life takes on new meaning, more sparkle. You make day dream a lot. Love woos you to function at your highest level.
How and when it does end?
Infatuation - it stops the same way it starts - fast!
Love - it stops slowly.
How do you see each other?
Infatuation - you live in a one- person world. Your whole universe revolves around that other person. Nothing else matters. No one else is as important. You tend to neglect your family, and pay little or no attention to your other friends. You turn a deaf ear. You lose interest in things that use to excite you.
Love - you expand your world to include your beloved; add this wonderful new relationship to all the others you have. It becomes a plus, not a replacement. Your world grows larger, not narrower.
How Do Others View You Two?
Infatuation - Few or none of your family and friends approve of your relationship
Love - Most or all friends and parents approve of your relationship.
What Does Distance Do?
Infatuation - It will die with distance. Absence makes the heart grow fonder - of somebody else! hehehe
Love - Love survives separation. It may even grow
How Do Quarrels affects the Romance?
Infatuation - Quarrels will kill the relationship, and they tend to become more frequent and more severe
Love - Love lives through quarrels, and quarrels become less frequent and less severe.
How You Feel about and Refer to your Relationship?
Infatuation - you live in a one- person world. Your whole universe revolves around that other person. Nothing else matters. No one else is as important. You tend to neglect your family, and pay little or no attention to your other friends. You turn a deaf ear. You lose interest in things that use to excite you.
Love - you expand your world to include your beloved; add this wonderful new relationship to all the others you have. It becomes a plus, not a replacement. Your world grows larger, not narrower.
How Do Others View You Two?
Infatuation - Few or none of your family and friends approve of your relationship
Love - Most or all friends and parents approve of your relationship.
What Does Distance Do?
Infatuation - It will die with distance. Absence makes the heart grow fonder - of somebody else! hehehe
Love - Love survives separation. It may even grow
How Do Quarrels affects the Romance?
Infatuation - Quarrels will kill the relationship, and they tend to become more frequent and more severe
Love - Love lives through quarrels, and quarrels become less frequent and less severe.
How You Feel about and Refer to your Relationship?
Infatuation - Using I, me, my, he/she, him/her, sign that not yet invested himself in the relationship. Clinging to selfish identity. Still keeping him/her own identity carefully separate from carefully each other.
Love - Two person who real love , come to feel that they no longer separate, but ha ve in great measure become one. They tend to use we, and us and our when tWhat's your ego response to the other???
Love - Mainly unselfish, releasing; concerned, equally for other.
What's your overall attitude toward the other?
Infatuation - Attitude of taking; exploit and use the other.
Love - Attitude of giving, sharing; want to serve other's needs and wants.
What is the effect of jealousy?
Infatuation - More frequent , more severe
Love- Less frequent, less severe.
To sum up all these, In real love you love the person so much that you want them to be happy - even if you may not be allowed to share their happiness. But if you feel you're just infatuated you don't have to rush to end the relationship. Infatuation can and sometimes does develop into real love.... So are you In Love? or just Infatuated???
Source: Sex, Love or Infatuation by Ray E. Short
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